WHAT A COUPLE CAN DO TO HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP (Imago)

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The alternative to a power struggle is to compassionately ask for what you need and to empathically give what your partner needs, in other words, to consciously collaborate with your unconscious purpose to overcome your childhood adaptations. Imago therapy teaches you how to do this, in safety, and with respect.

This may bring you to the third stage of an intimate relationship. The first stage (romantic love), is when you want the other person. The second (the power struggle), is when you want the other person to satisfy you. The third, “real love”, is when you want what is best for the other person.

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HOW DOES ROMANTIC LOVE GO WRONG? (Imago)

Your romantic relationships will typically progress through two distinct phases —

  1. The “romantic phase”: you have an expectation of need fulfilment and a euphoric feeling of completeness when your partner supplies the lost parts of your self. Cupid shoots a dose of Phenylethylalamine directly into your brain. You feel like the darling child in an ideal family.

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THE PURPOSE OF ROMANTIC LOVE (Imago)

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Why do you fall in love with particular people? According to Imago theory, you seek to recreate the conditions of your childhood so that you can use your adult competance to complete your developmental tasks and grow up — in other words, to finish your childhood. As Ben Hecht said, “Love is the magician that pulls a man out of his own hat.”

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