Don’t tell her she’s pretty for a dark skinned girl. Dark is not a badge of shame;
But rather a glorious piece created by God himself.
Don’t tell her her hair needs to be fixed.
Her hair doesn’t need to be fixed, it’s societies view of what beauty is that’s broken.
Black woman’s biggest hair problem is that they think that they have a problem.
For years we have been taught that our hair is difficult, unattractive and needs to be ‘fixed’.
But many of us have rejected those teachings and have decided to embrace our naturally kinky, curly and coily hair.
Many natural women now embrace the word ‘nappy’ and they will no longer allow the world to make them feel shame.
Remove the kinks from your mind, not your hair.
The woman who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd.
The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has been.
“I love my hair because it’s a reflection of my soul. It’s dense, it’s kinky, it’s soft, it’s textured, it’s difficult, it’s easy and it’s fun. That’s why I love my hair.”
-Tracee Ellis Ross
“Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
“I cried, I cried… it was such an emotional experience and it wasn’t just about hair. It was what my perception of beauty was and had been for all of my life and then I look at myself in the mirror and I’m like, ‘That doesn’t look like what I thought was beautiful.’”
-Teyonah Parris on her reaction to going natural
“I’m glad that Shonda Rhimes saw me and said “Why not?” That’s what makes her a visionary. That’s what makes her iconic. I think that beauty is subjective. I’ve heard that statement [less classically beautiful] my entire life. Being a dark-skinned black woman, you heard it from the womb. And “classically not beautiful” is a fancy term for saying ugly. And denouncing you. And erasing you. Now … it worked when I was younger. It no longer works for me now. It’s about teaching a culture how to treat you. Because at the end of the day, you define you.”
“I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am a soul that lives within”
“Never in a million years did I think that I would see a young black girl wanting to look like me.”
“The question why I would let Willow cut her hair. First the ‘let’ must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are her domain.” “Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair.”
-Jada Pinkett Smith
“No, I’m not the most beautiful person in the world. Some people think I’m ugly. Some people think I’m okay. You have to love who you are for who you are. I never knock people for their choices but I don’t ever want to augment who I am. What I look like and who I am was a gift from my parents and if I want to change that it’s kind of like slapping them in the face. I always want to be true to who I am because it’s my heritage. Even if it’s not the most beautiful, it’s history and my family history. Beauty is how you make people feel about themselves.”
-Whitney White (Naptural85), from an interview with KisforKinky.com
“My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden, Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me. When I saw Alek [Wek] I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty, but around me the preference for light skin prevailed. To the beholders that I thought mattered, I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me, “You can’t eat beauty. It doesn’t feed you.” And these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.”
- “Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It’s beyond me.” – Zora Neale Hurston
- “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
- “I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else’s whim or to someone else’s ignorance. ” – bell hooks
- “Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.” – Alice Walker
“I love being a woman and I love being a black woman.” – Oprah Winfrey
“We are the women that marched through the cotton fields into the fields of medicine, politics, law, education, entertainment. We even found a way to march ourselves into the white house as the first lady of the united states!”