What is the long walk down the third culture tunnel?
It’s the dark days of the third culture kid.
It’s the period in time when you’re wandering about feeling lost, feeling misunderstood, feeling incredibly alone and like there’s no where you can go.
It is what some refer to as – the dark nights of soul.
You feel estranged, frustrated with the world. No one understands you. You are different from everyone around you.
Kinda how Clark Kent feels being among humans sometimes.
Even though he does a lot for humanity and lives in this world, yet humanity and the world reject him and he never feels like he completely fits in.
There are things that only he can feel and see and can never share with anyone else. This is the loneliest feeling in the world. Not being able to share.
Well, most third culture kids go through this trying period.
Unfortunately not everyone is strong enough to get out of this tunnel.(More on the stuck in the tunnel phenomenon later)
The good news is that once you do summon up the strength to get out of the dark there is always the light at the end of the tunnel.
The other good news is that the world is so big and vast and amazing that you will come to realise that no matter how weird or bizarre you think you are there is always someone out there somewhere who is similar to you or who can understand you or who is even (strangely) even more weird than you.
Just make the move, take that great leap into the unknown and you shall find what it is that ye seek, as long as ye seek it with a good heart and with a clear and open mind. Make the effort. Follow the rainbow. Don’t live the rest of your life saying ‘what if I had…’ just do it like Nike.
Reach out to other TCK’s like you too. Join TCK groups.
Work on yourself. Learn to be happy by yourself also and not with others only. You can. You are capable. Work on your talents. Reach out to your few loved ones.
Cut off from anything that’s dragging you down.
Get closer to people who encourage you and I promise you you will make it out of the tunnel.
Did you see the Cold play video called ‘paradise’?
It speaks to third culture kids – to the very bone marrow.
If you haven’t watched it yet, just go youtube it.
If you have watched it before, go watch it again, and you’ll see exactly what I mean.
Here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1G4isv_Fylg
This particular blog post is for a friend of mine who has been going through a bit of a dark tunnel and I hope this post will truly help you reach out for the light.
You know who you are.
Love and peace all!