Nekita’s Girl Code: What makes a woman unique.

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This is a special for Women’s day, so I’m going to start by saying Happy Women’s day to all the women out there.

Now some of my Girl code team members below are going to join us in order to celebrate Women’s day. They are going to share their ideas about what makes a woman unique.

And we will try to be a little serious for a change and not all humour…

Pls be serious guys…

What makes a woman unique guys?


Tina B –

I think there’s a whole lot that makes women unique –

I think the fact that she sees her period is amazing and even more than unique.

You see, there’s the 28 day cycle out of which she’s down in the dumps for about two weeks of every month.

Mmmhhh But who cares right?

In the first week, she’s going through PMS – both psychological, emotional and at times physical pain. Then in the second week her actual period (bleeding period ) comes and she can’t do nothing for one whole day cause the pain is ripping her insides apart – but guess what? She gets up, drives to work or catches the bus, pastes a smile on her face and does a whole days work without complaining. (There is no work day off or work relief plan for periods) She also cooks, cleans and takes care of the household if she has a family. She does this for the next three days or so until the pain subsides some, while secretly wishing her next period will fall on a weekend so that she can just lie in bed and absorb the pain. It stops after about a week and she has the next two weeks free of pain and PMS.

But nobody talks about this, so who cares right?

So if this menstrual cycle alone does not make a woman amazing and incredible, unique and a little bit terrifying, then I don’t know what does.

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Okay I’m going to talk about motherhood and caring for a family.

Like when I was young and got married I thought that it would all be a ball in the park, and Cinderella would get her prince and Shrek and Fiona would find happily ever after peace.

Imagine the shock when I realised I realised that marriage was no ball park and that Prince charming wasn’t even perfect but needed to lean on me a lot sometimes and that we both had to work hard and long at our marriage just like every other challenge in the world.

Shock two – realising I had to cook 3 times a day, clean up after every one, keep the house spotless, entertain guests, family members, wash the dishes all day and find my once cute hands turning into pale shadows of what they used to be.

Not to talk of raising tiny little tots who strut about the house like little Princes and Princesses as if they own it all even though we the parents are the one’s doing all the hard work.

AND balancing a work life at the same time, and barely trying very hard to still keep a social life AND still look as beautiful/desirable as the day you met your husband, and still keep him thrilled and entertained!!! Gosh I’m already exhausted just saying all that.

My salute today is to women who thought marriage was a fairy tale and have to work hard at a shoddier version of that. (Not to say marriage isn’t blissful.) Just saying…lol.

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Becky –

Women who multitask.

Multi- tasking ladies remind me of Wonder Woman and She-ra – by the power of Greyskull!

They can do anything, achieve anything, I mean – it breaks they fix it, someone’s hungry – they fix it, files for the 2’0’clock board meeting need to be arranged – they fix it. Someone’s upset – they fix it. Kids trifling and need to be spanked, they sense it and fix it. Husband needs support – they fix it. Trifling flirts trying to wreck the home – they zoom in and fix it. Wow.

Happy women’s day all female multi-taskers of the world. The real life heroes.

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Franca P –

Women who go through child labour and out successfully are unique.

Generations of mothers, aunties, sisters and girlfriends have lied about child labour over the years. They lie so as not to put future generations of women off from having children. The pain is excruciating, mortifying and crippling. It can leave some women in so much psychological and emotional turmoil that they develop post traumatic stress syndrome or depression afterwards. It’s real. You would be depressed too if a you just spent the past nine months of your life feeding another human (whom you’re not even sure will grow to like you) that lives and grows inside you and makes you pee/throw up all the time and pops out of you fully developed and through a very small hole.

Not to mention that you are the vessel through which all human life and successful men and women are born…(a heavy burden to bear)

Happy women’s day to all women who made it through labour!

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Sarah –

Women who are simply housewives

Women who are simply housewives usually get a bad rap. Everyone thinks being a housewife is a ball in the park but it’s not.

When you are a housewife a lot of responsibility ‘simply’ falls unto your shoulders and you have to see it through or else be labelled lazy and irresponsible.

You have to see that the house is spotless all the time, cleaning, preparing various types of food a day, going to the market to shop, taking care of the laundry, ironing and just making the home generally comfortable, warm, welcoming and liveable.

You care for the kids, pick them up from day care or school, you help them with their homework and you are there to open the door for your husband when he comes home from work with a warm smile and enthusiasm even after you’ve done all the above work.

Happy Mother’s day Housewives!!!!

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Walta H –

Women who are single

Now single women of a certain age get a lot of emotional abuse from the society in general. So I just want to take this opportunity to give a shout out to all the single ladies out there who are just as unique and wonderful as any other woman.

They are so amazing because they have the power of endurance, patience, fortitude, foresight, individuality and a keen intelligence.

Even more kudos to single mothers who have to do the job of two people alone with finesse.

Happy Women’s day!

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Meg –

And how about we take off our hats today for women who take crap?

Crap like – The stereotyping of women, the treatment of women as second hand human beings who have to be submissive to men at all times, ie take lower pay cuts. Women who have been raped, abused, mal treated, abducted, forced into early marriages and all sorts. And they still end up lifting their heads up and forging on in this crazy world. How about Happy women’s day to women who take crap, swallow it, take a dump and excrete it out and just forge on like soldiers? Happy women’s day to the real brave hearts.



What makes a woman unique is Her peculiar individuality.


M.D.J. –

Her Beauty and Strength


Sally k. –

Her spirituality.


George –

Her female intuition.


Doris –

Medically  we are told that, from within the womb, women’s brains are biologically different to men’s brains.

High levels of oxytocin, serotonin and dopamine are secreted. Natural feminine instincts and intuition are God’s gift along with all our unique capacity, like a woman’s womb to carry pregnancy, threshold for pain during labour, capacity to love and capability to hate or dislike as the case may be. God indeed has blessed the woman with very unique features, facial, and physical body appearance, need to love and be loved, responsiveness: pain, joy, touch and a whole lot. It’s completely different from that of a boy or man as the case may be. From when we are little, our make up prepares for our unique personality and perception of our sex. It is so natural and different from that of a boy, even the females that grow up in the midst of boys (Tom boys.)


Pal –

Her ability to love, care for her family and stay positive in spite of all challenges.


Wowo –

I salute the strength of a WOMAN

*Changes her name

*Changes her home

*Leaves her family

*Moves in with you

*Builds a home with you

*Gets pregnant for you

*Pregnancy changes her body

*She gets fat

*Almost gives up in the labour room due to unbearable pain of child birth

*Even the kids she delivers bear your name

Till the day she dies, everything she does…cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents, bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that you benefit from…sometimes at the cost of your own health, hobbies and beauty.

So who is really doing whom a favour?

Dear men, appreciate the women in your lives always,

because it is not easy to be a woman.

Being a woman is priceless.

My definition of a woman would be:






Happy women’s week!


Tupac Shakur –

You always was a black queen, mama
I finally understand
for a woman it ain’t easy tryin to raise a man
You always was committed
A poor single mother on welfare, tell me how ya did it
There’s no way I can pay you back
But the plan is to show you that I understand
You are appreciated

You know, those of us at Girl code can go on and on and write a book even about what makes a woman unique but I’m going to stop here cause we don’t want to take up that much of your time.

HAPPY WOMEN’S DAY YA’LL make it a beautiful one and stay reminded of all the little and big things that make a woman unique even though it’s not all candy pops and roses!

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